ARRANGED MARRIAGES vs LOVE MARRIAGES

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ARRANGED MARRIAGES vs LOVE MARRIAGES


They say 'Marriages are made in heaven'. Made or not, I do not know, but one thing is for sure - the one whom you’re going to marry, would have already been decided by The One above. No matter how many crushes you have in your life, no matter how many infatuations you go through and no matter how much you try to get into a relationship with someone, you're going to marry the only one you're destined to.

Marriages signifies more than the coming together of two people. It is the coming together of two families and relations. It is an event where people want to showcase their position/status to the relations and friends. It means a lot to the parents of both the sides. Each caste/subcaste has its own custom ways of conducting a marriage. There lies the beauty of marriages too, elaborate preparations, sending out invitations, inviting people, booking of marriage halls, cameras, reception, food etc., and the list goes on!

When it comes to arranged marriages, the process is simple. Everything is arranged. Which also means, everything is taken care of by the parents. This is one last responsibility that every parent wants to handle before considering their children to be mature enough to handle the world! With arranged marriages, everyone is happy, parents, friends, relatives and also the bride and the groom. Happily Ever After!

In case of love marriages, the process is always complex, excepting in a few rare instances. Nothing is arranged. Since marriages are the coming together of two families, it takes a lot of time. Convincing the parents first to agree to it. If the boy and the girl belong to different caste/subcaste (forget different religions here), there comes the problem for convincing the parents to stop worrying about the society. Then comes the part where both the families have to meet. This is the hardest part. Both families have to like each other :) If all these succeed, then comes the actual negotiation and finally marriage. The thing here is, no one in both the parties will want to hold the responsibility. Everyone will like to escape, to get away from the wrath of the society. So it falls on the heads of the bride and the groom, to do all the consoling and getting everyone to agree.

One nice thing about love marriages is (as per my understanding), during this entire process, the boy and the girl get to understand and appreciate each other well. This helps in the long run of their relationship. They tend to talk over each and every step. Each one of them start to like the ability of the other to handle tight situations, supporting each other. Fruitful!

Marriage is the occasion to commemorate the coming together of two people. An event to forget all differences and wish the couple a happy life together! When the life itself is not predictable, why not let people live happily till they are! Let Happiness prevail!

To summarise in the Software terminology,
Love Marriage's Resembles procedural programming language. We have some set functions like flirting, going to movies together, making long conversations on phone and then try to fit all functions to the candidate we like.
where as Arranged Marriage's are Similar to object oriented programming approach. We first fix the candidate and then try to implement functions on her. The main object is fixed and various functions are added to supplement the main program. The functions can be added or deleted.

Arranged Marriage is like Unix.. extremely reliable n robust.
Love Marriage is like Windows, beautiful n seductive........
yet one never knows when it will crash........

College ke din

Kuch baate bhuli hui,
kuch pal beete hue,

Har galti ka ek naya bahana,
aur fir sabki nazar me aana,

Exam ki puri raat jagna,
fir bhi sawal dekhke sar khujana,

Mauka mile to class bunk marna,
fir doston k sath canteen jana

USKI ek jhalak dekhane roj college jana,
usko dekhte dekhte attendance bhul jana,

Har pal hai naya sapna,
aaj jo tute fir bhi hai apna,

College ke din,
In lamho me jindagi jee bhar ke jeena,

Yaad karke in palon ko,
Fir jindagi bhar muskurana

Pyaar

Dil ki awaaz ko izhaar kehte hai,
Jhuki nigaah ko ikaraar kehte hai,
Sirf paane ka naam ishq nahin hota,
Kuch khone ko bhi pyaar kehte hai.

Friendship Vs. Love

Friendship Vs. Love

We have sometimes or the other been faced with this question in our mind. What's the difference? Friendship .. Love .. Which is stronger? Can Friendship lead to Love? Does Love mean the end of True Pure Friendship ..

Friends are someone with whom we share our emotions with. we find friends everywhere, in College, in workplace, in our neighbourhood, sometimes we may even get a good friend when we are on a vacation. But Love on the other hand is more precise and selective. we cant be sharing love with everyone as we do with friendship. we can love our parents and family but if we keep loving every one in sight, well, its not love. Love is more intense.

Lets come to the aspect of girls and boys in college/school regarding this. According to me, Girls place friendship higher in esteem and respect than Love, whereas Boys do the exact opposite. This is where much of the different arises. This I say out of my own experience (which I dont feel like sharing right now)
Friendship can pave way to love but there can be no love in Friendship ..

JANNAT

PYAAR KO KAMZORI
NAHIN TAAQT BANAAO....
RISHTO KO MAJBOORI
NAHIN IBAADT BANAAO......
ZINDGI SIRF JEENE
SE KYA HOGA..........
HAR PAL HAR LAMHE KO
APNI KOSHISH SE JANNAT BANAAO....